Been There, Done That

Have you ever had your feeling hurt so badly, that you found it near impossible to trust someone again? Maybe your boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on you, or maybe they just left you for no real reason except "they not feelin you no more." Experiences like this cause people to stereotype every relationship after that. Any time they are about to get in a relationship, they automatically assume all people are the same and don't want to get hurt again. This leads to insecurities in relationships and lack of trust. People who have gotten hurt in previous relationships have the mentality of " do unto others BEFORE they do unto you." Basically this is like hurt the other person before they hurt you. This is the worst possible mentality to have. You shouldn't say just because my boyfriend or girlfriend hurt me in a past relationship means it will happen in all my future relationships. The next person you date shouldn't be hurt just because you were hurt previously. Treat people how you want to be treated. If your last partner hurt your feelings, they weren't good enough for you in the first place. If you know how bad you felt after your last partner hurt you, do you really want to put someone else through that? Don't assume all people are the same. Give the next person a chance. Noone should be judged before they allow themselves to be proven. Comment if you've been here before or if you diasgree...I wanna hear yall thoughts on this..

Open Your Eyes

Why is it that when its so obvious that you are getting cheated on, its so hard to leave your partner? Your partner can deny it, avoid it, and defend themselves over and over and you'll stay with them. Some people will say, no, if I ever find out my partner is cheating, its automatic, we are over. But from personal experience I promise you this is nowhere near as easy as it sounds. Once you are in a relationship, and you grow to care for a person its really hard to just break off ties with that person easily. Some people are that strong, and have no problem in ending a relationship quickly after cheating. Others just THINK they are strong, until the situation actually appears in the relationship. I know this because when my ex-girlfriend told me she cheated on me my first reaction, as it should have been, was to break up with her. Against my better thinking and against the opinion of my friends I forgave her. This goes back to one of my recent blogs "Blinded." I was blinded by her looks, it was more of me wanting to stay with a pretty face rather than someone who would treat me right. I look back on it now and I realize that the choice I made in staying with her was a bad one. Regardless of the attraction, or committment I had to her, she obviously did not have the same committment to me or she wouldn't have cheated on me. Now I have to practice what I preac and never let anyone take advantage of the caring I show for them again, I don't want anyone to make the same mistake I did. Open your eyes. If you know your partner cheated on you leave them. If they did it once who's to say they won't do it again? Don't let anyone take advantage of your love because anyone that does is not good enough to be with you in the first place. Cheating is an unforgivable act...I don't think anyone should get a second chance..why let someone hurt your feelings twice when you can find someone who would never even think about hurting you? Who disagrees? Who thinks second chances are good for relationships? I'm open to any comments so please do just that and comment...

Loyalties

What do you do if a bestfriend of yours is in love but may be being decieved by his/her partner? For example, say you hear a rumor that your friend's boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating on them. However it is just a rumor afterall. You don't know if there is any truth to it. But do you want to take the chance in seeing your friend's heart broken in not telling them? Or, do you want to tell your friend and risk ending a relationship that the rumor may not even be true? Do you want to be viewed as the person who ended a great relationship? Either way people want to have their friend's best interest in mind. In my opinion, you should get as much evidence against the person before you confront your friend with the information. Don't jump to conclusions, because rumors are made to mess up peoples' relationships and status anyway. Don't be the person who messes up a relationship for no reason. Assuming the rumors are true, and you do have good evidence, by all means, tell your friend. If you are entirely sure that your friend's partner is cheating, you shouldn't stand by and watch them get their feelings hurt. Don't stand by and wait for your friend to realize it themselves. If you are 100 percent sure your saving your friend from remaining in a relationship in which he or she is the only one that cares. Just don't act without proof. What do you think? As a friend, is it your responsibility to protect your friend's feelings? How soon should you act if you hear a rumor? Before proof or after? These are just my opinions so comment especially if you disagree, but still comment if you do...

Memories!!!

It seems like such a short time ago that I was walking into the halls of Freedom Academy for the first time. Since then, I've had countless laughs with all my friends. This blog is to highlight some of those laughs and to look back at the good times I had here.

9th GRADE- Dillian kisses Cheyenne on the train...the next day she files a report against him lmaoo

Jair dresses up as James Brown in the school show..wears a fake afro lmaoooo

Gio gets his hair zeked by the barber ahh good laugh

Tyrik fights some tall retarded looking boy lmaoo he washed him

10th GRADE- Mr. Vilbig catches someone messing with the projector in the classroom and gets angry: "What the hell?" lmaooooooooo

Lil Gio and Isaiah grow apart, and everyone tries to place them back together by instigating the situation, pushing them into each other, saying that that one person said something about the other lolll

Prisca pushes Jair over the rail in Burger King and he falls backwards and bangs his head lmaooo Prisca is a gee

Colleen rap battles Jair and rips him lmaooo why stuff always happening to him

Dilon snuffs Dillian in the face and Dillian just walks away looking mad sad lollll

Me, Michael, Ayanna, Francesse and Adeyinka all in a hotel room in Boston, Its like 1:00 in the morning and we watching late night B.E.T. And all the commercials have mad swimsuit models and bikinis and stuff, so Mike picks up the remote to change the channel and all you hear from Adeyinka is "hey! Why yu changing that?" lmaoooo smhhhhh

I cut my hair..I was tight lol but I look back on it and I did look pretty crazy lmaoo

11th GRADE- Dalesa gets barked on by Mr. Andrews lmaooooooo he went mad hard
that day

Mr. Andrews one day in english class to Giovanny "isn't it wicked??" lmaoooo

Mr. Butcher becomes the new law teacher stutters maad times lmaoo everyone makes fun of him

Michael rips Dalesa and Shanise in a rap battle in Mc Donalds lmaoo smh he told them to get they green card

Elena gets barked on by Ms. Reinstein in law lmaoooooo "your always correcting someone elena" lmaooooo

Elena says an odee wack joke in a chat room "I had ya modda last mote" lmaooooooooooooooooooo best laugh of 11th grade?? For me maybe lolllll

Ahh I'm tight I sed a wack joke in a chat too " go suck a duffy dolo" lmaoooooooo of course gino had to copy and paste it lolllll tight

Leticia is singing kiss me through the phone and gets penised by mike while singing the numbers lmaoooooo

Jerrel throws Andrew off his seat in the lunchroom to play dominoes lmaoooooooo and all yu hear is Mike "Andrew yu mad butt!"

Prisca washes Jerrel up to get a domino back lmaooo and Jerrel "cmooon yu violatin!"

We in Boston, me Mike, Edgar, Javone and Twin having a pillow fight in the dark so Twin think he poppin. He gonna hide behind a corner in a white shirt like we can't see him. So he come from behind the corner and we WASH him badlyyyy those pillows hurt man. We washed him till he was on the floor holdin his hand above his heads protectin himself lmaoooo so when we put the lights on he got his eyes close he like ohh I can't see meh eyes hurtin. So later we go to check on him in his room and he sittin facin the tv with his eyes still closed. So we like, twin what are you doing?? He's like I can hear the tv can't I? I don't need my eyes lmaoooooo clown

Ahhhhhhhh some good laughs in Freedom..hopefully more to come for senior year..enjoy these memories guys I sure did! Comment on the one you think is the best laugh of your years in Freedom! Sorry I coudnt put all!

Blinded...

Has anyone ever been in a relationship in which it was solely about the good looks of the other person rather than what was inside? A relationship in which all of your feelings were based on how attractive your partner is? In my opinion this is the one of the worst type of relationships one could possibly have. You can have a really attractive boyfriend or girlfriend, but what if on the inside the person has a horrible personality? I often ask my friends what would you rather, an attractive partner who is a jerk, or a not so attractive partner who has a great personality? My friends often reply with the first choice, but I think they just say that because they think that's what I want to hear. In actuality, most people choose the cuter face over the less attractive one, regardless of personality. The cuter face is not always the wrong choice, but I think a lot of people go for looks now rather than a person that wil actually treat them right. Even when it is apparent that a person is treating you bad, I think now people see it as I don't want to lose this pretty face so I'm going to stay with this person. This is a bad mentality to have. Is a good looking person more important to you than having your feelings hurt? Would you risk having your heart potentially broken just because this person looks better than the next? What do you think? Comment...