Bad is the New Good

I've been noticing an increasing amount of girls who are beginning to fall more and more for the wrong people. Gone are the days where girls ignored the boys who were obviously no good for them. In are the days when girls can't seem to look past these same boys. Today, girls seem to choose the boys who aren't the best choice for them, over the boys who would most likely treat them well. What do girls see in the boys who disrespect them, and cheat? What don't they see in a boy who would treat them the way a female should be treated? Is a boys handsome looks really so important that you would let him hurt your feelings? Where should a female draw the line? I've seen so many good girls choose a jerk because he might look better, over a boy who would treat them with respect but is a little less good looking. Girls cry when they get their feelings hurt by boys and then blame it on the boy. But who is it really to blame? Girls let looks blind their evaluation of a boy too often. There are too many girls who say "that's a cute boy, I want to date him," but that's where it stops. Many girls don't judge based on character anymore, just on looks. This society is running out of the girls who take time to really get to kno boy, and doesn't just hop into a relationship because he might look better than the next person. The boys who can be considered jerks are receiving more and more of the good girls while the decent boys are left without one. Why are girls more prone to dating the heart break boys and not the ones who really care?

Been There, Done That

Have you ever had your feeling hurt so badly, that you found it near impossible to trust someone again? Maybe your boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on you, or maybe they just left you for no real reason except "they not feelin you no more." Experiences like this cause people to stereotype every relationship after that. Any time they are about to get in a relationship, they automatically assume all people are the same and don't want to get hurt again. This leads to insecurities in relationships and lack of trust. People who have gotten hurt in previous relationships have the mentality of " do unto others BEFORE they do unto you." Basically this is like hurt the other person before they hurt you. This is the worst possible mentality to have. You shouldn't say just because my boyfriend or girlfriend hurt me in a past relationship means it will happen in all my future relationships. The next person you date shouldn't be hurt just because you were hurt previously. Treat people how you want to be treated. If your last partner hurt your feelings, they weren't good enough for you in the first place. If you know how bad you felt after your last partner hurt you, do you really want to put someone else through that? Don't assume all people are the same. Give the next person a chance. Noone should be judged before they allow themselves to be proven. Comment if you've been here before or if you diasgree...I wanna hear yall thoughts on this..

Open Your Eyes

Why is it that when its so obvious that you are getting cheated on, its so hard to leave your partner? Your partner can deny it, avoid it, and defend themselves over and over and you'll stay with them. Some people will say, no, if I ever find out my partner is cheating, its automatic, we are over. But from personal experience I promise you this is nowhere near as easy as it sounds. Once you are in a relationship, and you grow to care for a person its really hard to just break off ties with that person easily. Some people are that strong, and have no problem in ending a relationship quickly after cheating. Others just THINK they are strong, until the situation actually appears in the relationship. I know this because when my ex-girlfriend told me she cheated on me my first reaction, as it should have been, was to break up with her. Against my better thinking and against the opinion of my friends I forgave her. This goes back to one of my recent blogs "Blinded." I was blinded by her looks, it was more of me wanting to stay with a pretty face rather than someone who would treat me right. I look back on it now and I realize that the choice I made in staying with her was a bad one. Regardless of the attraction, or committment I had to her, she obviously did not have the same committment to me or she wouldn't have cheated on me. Now I have to practice what I preac and never let anyone take advantage of the caring I show for them again, I don't want anyone to make the same mistake I did. Open your eyes. If you know your partner cheated on you leave them. If they did it once who's to say they won't do it again? Don't let anyone take advantage of your love because anyone that does is not good enough to be with you in the first place. Cheating is an unforgivable act...I don't think anyone should get a second chance..why let someone hurt your feelings twice when you can find someone who would never even think about hurting you? Who disagrees? Who thinks second chances are good for relationships? I'm open to any comments so please do just that and comment...

Loyalties

What do you do if a bestfriend of yours is in love but may be being decieved by his/her partner? For example, say you hear a rumor that your friend's boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating on them. However it is just a rumor afterall. You don't know if there is any truth to it. But do you want to take the chance in seeing your friend's heart broken in not telling them? Or, do you want to tell your friend and risk ending a relationship that the rumor may not even be true? Do you want to be viewed as the person who ended a great relationship? Either way people want to have their friend's best interest in mind. In my opinion, you should get as much evidence against the person before you confront your friend with the information. Don't jump to conclusions, because rumors are made to mess up peoples' relationships and status anyway. Don't be the person who messes up a relationship for no reason. Assuming the rumors are true, and you do have good evidence, by all means, tell your friend. If you are entirely sure that your friend's partner is cheating, you shouldn't stand by and watch them get their feelings hurt. Don't stand by and wait for your friend to realize it themselves. If you are 100 percent sure your saving your friend from remaining in a relationship in which he or she is the only one that cares. Just don't act without proof. What do you think? As a friend, is it your responsibility to protect your friend's feelings? How soon should you act if you hear a rumor? Before proof or after? These are just my opinions so comment especially if you disagree, but still comment if you do...

Memories!!!

It seems like such a short time ago that I was walking into the halls of Freedom Academy for the first time. Since then, I've had countless laughs with all my friends. This blog is to highlight some of those laughs and to look back at the good times I had here.

9th GRADE- Dillian kisses Cheyenne on the train...the next day she files a report against him lmaoo

Jair dresses up as James Brown in the school show..wears a fake afro lmaoooo

Gio gets his hair zeked by the barber ahh good laugh

Tyrik fights some tall retarded looking boy lmaoo he washed him

10th GRADE- Mr. Vilbig catches someone messing with the projector in the classroom and gets angry: "What the hell?" lmaooooooooo

Lil Gio and Isaiah grow apart, and everyone tries to place them back together by instigating the situation, pushing them into each other, saying that that one person said something about the other lolll

Prisca pushes Jair over the rail in Burger King and he falls backwards and bangs his head lmaooo Prisca is a gee

Colleen rap battles Jair and rips him lmaooo why stuff always happening to him

Dilon snuffs Dillian in the face and Dillian just walks away looking mad sad lollll

Me, Michael, Ayanna, Francesse and Adeyinka all in a hotel room in Boston, Its like 1:00 in the morning and we watching late night B.E.T. And all the commercials have mad swimsuit models and bikinis and stuff, so Mike picks up the remote to change the channel and all you hear from Adeyinka is "hey! Why yu changing that?" lmaoooo smhhhhh

I cut my hair..I was tight lol but I look back on it and I did look pretty crazy lmaoo

11th GRADE- Dalesa gets barked on by Mr. Andrews lmaooooooo he went mad hard
that day

Mr. Andrews one day in english class to Giovanny "isn't it wicked??" lmaoooo

Mr. Butcher becomes the new law teacher stutters maad times lmaoo everyone makes fun of him

Michael rips Dalesa and Shanise in a rap battle in Mc Donalds lmaoo smh he told them to get they green card

Elena gets barked on by Ms. Reinstein in law lmaoooooo "your always correcting someone elena" lmaooooo

Elena says an odee wack joke in a chat room "I had ya modda last mote" lmaooooooooooooooooooo best laugh of 11th grade?? For me maybe lolllll

Ahh I'm tight I sed a wack joke in a chat too " go suck a duffy dolo" lmaoooooooo of course gino had to copy and paste it lolllll tight

Leticia is singing kiss me through the phone and gets penised by mike while singing the numbers lmaoooooo

Jerrel throws Andrew off his seat in the lunchroom to play dominoes lmaoooooooo and all yu hear is Mike "Andrew yu mad butt!"

Prisca washes Jerrel up to get a domino back lmaooo and Jerrel "cmooon yu violatin!"

We in Boston, me Mike, Edgar, Javone and Twin having a pillow fight in the dark so Twin think he poppin. He gonna hide behind a corner in a white shirt like we can't see him. So he come from behind the corner and we WASH him badlyyyy those pillows hurt man. We washed him till he was on the floor holdin his hand above his heads protectin himself lmaoooo so when we put the lights on he got his eyes close he like ohh I can't see meh eyes hurtin. So later we go to check on him in his room and he sittin facin the tv with his eyes still closed. So we like, twin what are you doing?? He's like I can hear the tv can't I? I don't need my eyes lmaoooooo clown

Ahhhhhhhh some good laughs in Freedom..hopefully more to come for senior year..enjoy these memories guys I sure did! Comment on the one you think is the best laugh of your years in Freedom! Sorry I coudnt put all!

Blinded...

Has anyone ever been in a relationship in which it was solely about the good looks of the other person rather than what was inside? A relationship in which all of your feelings were based on how attractive your partner is? In my opinion this is the one of the worst type of relationships one could possibly have. You can have a really attractive boyfriend or girlfriend, but what if on the inside the person has a horrible personality? I often ask my friends what would you rather, an attractive partner who is a jerk, or a not so attractive partner who has a great personality? My friends often reply with the first choice, but I think they just say that because they think that's what I want to hear. In actuality, most people choose the cuter face over the less attractive one, regardless of personality. The cuter face is not always the wrong choice, but I think a lot of people go for looks now rather than a person that wil actually treat them right. Even when it is apparent that a person is treating you bad, I think now people see it as I don't want to lose this pretty face so I'm going to stay with this person. This is a bad mentality to have. Is a good looking person more important to you than having your feelings hurt? Would you risk having your heart potentially broken just because this person looks better than the next? What do you think? Comment...

Its the Little Things That Get Me

Do any of you have friends that get mad really easily? I think we all have friends who are like this. The slightest thing will set them off, and the next thing you know they aren't talking to you. Personally, I really dislike when our friends act like this. If we supposed to be really good friends then I don't think you should get mad for the little things because you should be cool with me enough to know that nothing that small should be taken seriously. I say depending on how good of friends people are, they should be treated accordingly. For instance, if a person you not really cool with does something to you, regardless of its small or not I think you are entitled to be mad at them, because you really not close with them like that. But if a close friend of yours does something to you that is small you really shouldn't get mad at them because close friends have certain privileges that not close friends don't. Closer friends should be treated better because obviously they are close to you for a reason, so small petty things like joking around shouldn't really get you mad since you know they're playing anyway. I'm not saying for people t change what they get mad at, but rather how they handle this when it comes to their friends. I don't think you are really exhibiting true friendship if you get mad at them for something that is not worth being mad for. Who thinks I'm wrong? I'm open to any comments so speak your mind people..

Double Standard?

Why is that cheating for each different gender is viewed differently? Why is it that when boys have multiple girlfriends, he is considered a "playa" but when girls cheat, they are automatically considered a "hoe?" Where does this separation draw a line? I think that to some boys its considered cool to have multiple girls because in todays society whoever gets the most girls seems to be the ones who get the most respect. These boys are often ones who get looked down on by the decent girls because they understand that what the boy is doing is not morally correct. On the flip side, girls who have many boyfriends, not even necessarily at the same time, can still be considered a hoe or smut, because people automatically assume the girl is giving up her body. I say you can't really judge a girl by how many boyfriends she has, because that doesn't really mean she's giving her body to every single one of them. I think people make this common assumption about girls too often, but don't make it about boys enough. Boys are more likely to go out with a girl that looks easy rather than a girl that hasn't had many boyfriends, while girls defile the name of cheating boys and normally try and choose an honest one. I say boys make the smart choice, and dont go out with the girls who are known for having multiple boyfriends and especially for cheating and go for girls who don't have such open relationships. Not saying that girls with multiple boyfriends are hoes, but in my opinion, a girl who doesn't need a good boyfriend to complete her is less likely to cheat than one that does. Also, why are boys looked upon as cool for having multiple girlfriends? Why don't they have demeaning names like girls do? Why is there this lingering double standard for this topic? Someone please explain to me because these differences don't make any sense...

Love

Why is it that people outside the relationship you are in always seem to be able to tell you whether or not you are in love? They claim it may be too early in the relationship, or that you don't evern really understand what love is. How can an outside person tell you and your partner what you're feeling? In my opinion, people don't like to hear that it can't possibly be love while they are actually in the relationship, because the don't think anyone can tell them how they feel. But when they get out of their relationship they may look back on the relationship and realize that the excange to the "L" word and realize it may have been premature. Love is an extreme word that many people take lightly. Boyfriends and girlfriends throw around the word love without really understanding its meaning. This leads to miscommunication and sometimes even breakups. One person might use the love word and the other might feel like they aren't really to make such a big committment. When is it the right time to use the love word? Is there an actual wrong time to use it? How do you know when to finally say the "L" word? How can you put yourself in a position where noone gets hurt? Guys please leave comments this is an important topic to lots of people..

Betrayl?

A few months ago, I was having a very rough time at home so I ran away from home. This wasn't the first time I ran away, because often I find my parents go too hard. Normally when I leave home I go with my sister who lets me stay with her and her nephew. I went to my sister and I could tell she was on hard times. She didn't really have money to take care of her, myself and her two year old son. I stayed with her anyway, simply because I didn't have anywhere else to go and she was like my safe haven. My aunt thought I was taking advantage of her and that I should go back home. To me I was really intent on never going back so I stayed anyway. Eventually I went home to find out that my sister had been telling my mom everything that was happening while I was there. I felt really betrayed because I thought she was supposed to be on my side. Not only that, she lied about a lot of the things that happened! She claimed I took advantage of her by using her and her kindness. Was my sister justified in telling my other what occured while I was there? Was she justified in exxagerating and lying about some things? Was I wrong for using my sister as my only person to turn to? Or should I have endured my life at home for my sisters well being? Please tell me, I don't know...Comments are needed..

Asking too much

What do you do if the person you love is just not making a serious committment to your relationship? If it seems like they just really don't seem like they want to be with you anymore? Well I have been in this position recently and this feeling hurts a lot..My ex-girlfriend missed an excessive amount of school at a time, nearly 3 to 4 weeks without seeing her in school. This may seem bad enough already, but she also didn't make an effort to try and contact me to let me know she was okay. When I approached her about the situation she got very irrate, saying I didn't make an effort either, yet I went to her house to check on her, wrote her on myspace and even wrote her on aim when she wasn't even on. I got very upset at her because it seemed like she was trying to justify something that didnt even make sense. This made me feel away, like she wasn't giving our relationship enough of her time. To top it off she started claiming that I had a big ego, and that I placed everything before her. This hurt more than anything she said because it was totally off base. I put her before everything in my life, including grades, friends and even families. While we were together, grades dropped, friends were neglected, and parents were disobeyed. So ho could I put anything before her? Was it asking too much for my girlfriend to make more of an effort to see me and to contact me when she couldn't? I don't know... please comment at let me know what you think...

Special Treatment?

Recently, Ive been getting more and more frustrated with my life at home. I'm starting to feel like my parents don't treat me very accordingly for my age at all. I can't stay out late, I cant hang out after school, I get barked on for coming in just 15 minutes late, and I'm not even allowed to have a cell phone. Then my parents get upset when I don't call to tell them I'm going to be late. My grades aren't the best ever, but they're not horrible, I maintain about an 80 average. However, my parents treat like I just came out of the juvenile system the day before. What have I done to be treated like I'm way under the age I actually am? I understand some of you might argue that my parents are just being extra protective of me, but at times it goes past that. Little things like coming home at 4:30 on a weekday goes overboard. Can someone please tell me why my parents treat me like this?

Obligations

Sometimes, friends can be stuck in the middle of a exchange of words. The friend in the middle is best friends with the two people exchanging words. If one of the friends says something bad about the other friend to the person in the middle, is the middle friend obligated to tell? Or is it the middle friend obligated to keep it a secret because he's friend with the other one? If all this seems confusing consider that I've been in this situation before. A very good friend of mine, Michael said something about another very good friend of mine, Leticia. Now I'm the middle person. Should I tell Leticia what Michael has said about her? Or do I keep it a secret from Leticia and save Michaels trust in me? In this situation I chose the first option and told Leticia. Of course, Michael was mad at me. As a middle friend its near impossible to win in my opinion because it seems like either way someones going to end up being mad at you. If you are a middle friend, what are your obligations?