Its the Little Things That Get Me

Do any of you have friends that get mad really easily? I think we all have friends who are like this. The slightest thing will set them off, and the next thing you know they aren't talking to you. Personally, I really dislike when our friends act like this. If we supposed to be really good friends then I don't think you should get mad for the little things because you should be cool with me enough to know that nothing that small should be taken seriously. I say depending on how good of friends people are, they should be treated accordingly. For instance, if a person you not really cool with does something to you, regardless of its small or not I think you are entitled to be mad at them, because you really not close with them like that. But if a close friend of yours does something to you that is small you really shouldn't get mad at them because close friends have certain privileges that not close friends don't. Closer friends should be treated better because obviously they are close to you for a reason, so small petty things like joking around shouldn't really get you mad since you know they're playing anyway. I'm not saying for people t change what they get mad at, but rather how they handle this when it comes to their friends. I don't think you are really exhibiting true friendship if you get mad at them for something that is not worth being mad for. Who thinks I'm wrong? I'm open to any comments so speak your mind people..

Double Standard?

Why is that cheating for each different gender is viewed differently? Why is it that when boys have multiple girlfriends, he is considered a "playa" but when girls cheat, they are automatically considered a "hoe?" Where does this separation draw a line? I think that to some boys its considered cool to have multiple girls because in todays society whoever gets the most girls seems to be the ones who get the most respect. These boys are often ones who get looked down on by the decent girls because they understand that what the boy is doing is not morally correct. On the flip side, girls who have many boyfriends, not even necessarily at the same time, can still be considered a hoe or smut, because people automatically assume the girl is giving up her body. I say you can't really judge a girl by how many boyfriends she has, because that doesn't really mean she's giving her body to every single one of them. I think people make this common assumption about girls too often, but don't make it about boys enough. Boys are more likely to go out with a girl that looks easy rather than a girl that hasn't had many boyfriends, while girls defile the name of cheating boys and normally try and choose an honest one. I say boys make the smart choice, and dont go out with the girls who are known for having multiple boyfriends and especially for cheating and go for girls who don't have such open relationships. Not saying that girls with multiple boyfriends are hoes, but in my opinion, a girl who doesn't need a good boyfriend to complete her is less likely to cheat than one that does. Also, why are boys looked upon as cool for having multiple girlfriends? Why don't they have demeaning names like girls do? Why is there this lingering double standard for this topic? Someone please explain to me because these differences don't make any sense...

Love

Why is it that people outside the relationship you are in always seem to be able to tell you whether or not you are in love? They claim it may be too early in the relationship, or that you don't evern really understand what love is. How can an outside person tell you and your partner what you're feeling? In my opinion, people don't like to hear that it can't possibly be love while they are actually in the relationship, because the don't think anyone can tell them how they feel. But when they get out of their relationship they may look back on the relationship and realize that the excange to the "L" word and realize it may have been premature. Love is an extreme word that many people take lightly. Boyfriends and girlfriends throw around the word love without really understanding its meaning. This leads to miscommunication and sometimes even breakups. One person might use the love word and the other might feel like they aren't really to make such a big committment. When is it the right time to use the love word? Is there an actual wrong time to use it? How do you know when to finally say the "L" word? How can you put yourself in a position where noone gets hurt? Guys please leave comments this is an important topic to lots of people..

Betrayl?

A few months ago, I was having a very rough time at home so I ran away from home. This wasn't the first time I ran away, because often I find my parents go too hard. Normally when I leave home I go with my sister who lets me stay with her and her nephew. I went to my sister and I could tell she was on hard times. She didn't really have money to take care of her, myself and her two year old son. I stayed with her anyway, simply because I didn't have anywhere else to go and she was like my safe haven. My aunt thought I was taking advantage of her and that I should go back home. To me I was really intent on never going back so I stayed anyway. Eventually I went home to find out that my sister had been telling my mom everything that was happening while I was there. I felt really betrayed because I thought she was supposed to be on my side. Not only that, she lied about a lot of the things that happened! She claimed I took advantage of her by using her and her kindness. Was my sister justified in telling my other what occured while I was there? Was she justified in exxagerating and lying about some things? Was I wrong for using my sister as my only person to turn to? Or should I have endured my life at home for my sisters well being? Please tell me, I don't know...Comments are needed..

Asking too much

What do you do if the person you love is just not making a serious committment to your relationship? If it seems like they just really don't seem like they want to be with you anymore? Well I have been in this position recently and this feeling hurts a lot..My ex-girlfriend missed an excessive amount of school at a time, nearly 3 to 4 weeks without seeing her in school. This may seem bad enough already, but she also didn't make an effort to try and contact me to let me know she was okay. When I approached her about the situation she got very irrate, saying I didn't make an effort either, yet I went to her house to check on her, wrote her on myspace and even wrote her on aim when she wasn't even on. I got very upset at her because it seemed like she was trying to justify something that didnt even make sense. This made me feel away, like she wasn't giving our relationship enough of her time. To top it off she started claiming that I had a big ego, and that I placed everything before her. This hurt more than anything she said because it was totally off base. I put her before everything in my life, including grades, friends and even families. While we were together, grades dropped, friends were neglected, and parents were disobeyed. So ho could I put anything before her? Was it asking too much for my girlfriend to make more of an effort to see me and to contact me when she couldn't? I don't know... please comment at let me know what you think...

Special Treatment?

Recently, Ive been getting more and more frustrated with my life at home. I'm starting to feel like my parents don't treat me very accordingly for my age at all. I can't stay out late, I cant hang out after school, I get barked on for coming in just 15 minutes late, and I'm not even allowed to have a cell phone. Then my parents get upset when I don't call to tell them I'm going to be late. My grades aren't the best ever, but they're not horrible, I maintain about an 80 average. However, my parents treat like I just came out of the juvenile system the day before. What have I done to be treated like I'm way under the age I actually am? I understand some of you might argue that my parents are just being extra protective of me, but at times it goes past that. Little things like coming home at 4:30 on a weekday goes overboard. Can someone please tell me why my parents treat me like this?

Obligations

Sometimes, friends can be stuck in the middle of a exchange of words. The friend in the middle is best friends with the two people exchanging words. If one of the friends says something bad about the other friend to the person in the middle, is the middle friend obligated to tell? Or is it the middle friend obligated to keep it a secret because he's friend with the other one? If all this seems confusing consider that I've been in this situation before. A very good friend of mine, Michael said something about another very good friend of mine, Leticia. Now I'm the middle person. Should I tell Leticia what Michael has said about her? Or do I keep it a secret from Leticia and save Michaels trust in me? In this situation I chose the first option and told Leticia. Of course, Michael was mad at me. As a middle friend its near impossible to win in my opinion because it seems like either way someones going to end up being mad at you. If you are a middle friend, what are your obligations?