Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Been There, Done That
Have you ever had your feeling hurt so badly, that you found it near impossible to trust someone again? Maybe your boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on you, or maybe they just left you for no real reason except "they not feelin you no more." Experiences like this cause people to stereotype every relationship after that. Any time they are about to get in a relationship, they automatically assume all people are the same and don't want to get hurt again. This leads to insecurities in relationships and lack of trust. People who have gotten hurt in previous relationships have the mentality of " do unto others BEFORE they do unto you." Basically this is like hurt the other person before they hurt you. This is the worst possible mentality to have. You shouldn't say just because my boyfriend or girlfriend hurt me in a past relationship means it will happen in all my future relationships. The next person you date shouldn't be hurt just because you were hurt previously. Treat people how you want to be treated. If your last partner hurt your feelings, they weren't good enough for you in the first place. If you know how bad you felt after your last partner hurt you, do you really want to put someone else through that? Don't assume all people are the same. Give the next person a chance. Noone should be judged before they allow themselves to be proven. Comment if you've been here before or if you diasgree...I wanna hear yall thoughts on this..
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I think dis blog was meant for me…I cud honestly sai that I hve been hurt so mani tymes that I truly think I ben through it all….at this point in my lyfe its hard 4 me 2 trust any one….no matter how much I try ma heart jus wnt let me tke it that far….wen a relationship goes gudd I expect the bad 2 cum..itz like I wait for them to do something stupid becuz the rest hve..i think all guyz are da same n sum wai..i kno itz wrong 2 hve dat sterotype but wen u ben threw a lot ur onli left 2 think one thing..but I realize I hve 2 change dat thinking b4 I let a gudd 1 slip right pass me
ReplyDeletewell for one thing i actually agree with u on this one because if u treat someone bad u kno tht they will treat u bad back so if u kno tht person dont want u to treat u bad then dont treat them bad
ReplyDeleteI feel that mentality is developed from everyone until someone actually prove that they're not the same how ever, I feel everyone gets hurt regardless and dont know how to deal with the feeling of course thats the first thing they're gona look 2 and say oh you just like my ex or whatever. But i agree with you.
ReplyDeletei agree completely. trust is very essential in a relationship, and once that trust is gone or broken or however you wanna put it..i won't lie..it makes it hard for a person to get themselves back up on their feet and get moving again..day by day, gaining trust back, FIRST within themselves, and then with others. you have to trust yourself first, in order to trust others in my opinion. but, many do find it hard to get back into another relationship bechuz of trust issues and past relationships, and..it is most definitely hard, but it's worth the try. sometimes, you jss have to go outta your comfort zone and put yourself out there and jss, embrace it all. you won't know till you actually do it and experience it for yourself right ? and plus, sometimes, that one giant step forward, that one risk you took with that one person, could lead to ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you ever wished for in life.
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