Saturday, July 11, 2009
Open Your Eyes
Why is it that when its so obvious that you are getting cheated on, its so hard to leave your partner? Your partner can deny it, avoid it, and defend themselves over and over and you'll stay with them. Some people will say, no, if I ever find out my partner is cheating, its automatic, we are over. But from personal experience I promise you this is nowhere near as easy as it sounds. Once you are in a relationship, and you grow to care for a person its really hard to just break off ties with that person easily. Some people are that strong, and have no problem in ending a relationship quickly after cheating. Others just THINK they are strong, until the situation actually appears in the relationship. I know this because when my ex-girlfriend told me she cheated on me my first reaction, as it should have been, was to break up with her. Against my better thinking and against the opinion of my friends I forgave her. This goes back to one of my recent blogs "Blinded." I was blinded by her looks, it was more of me wanting to stay with a pretty face rather than someone who would treat me right. I look back on it now and I realize that the choice I made in staying with her was a bad one. Regardless of the attraction, or committment I had to her, she obviously did not have the same committment to me or she wouldn't have cheated on me. Now I have to practice what I preac and never let anyone take advantage of the caring I show for them again, I don't want anyone to make the same mistake I did. Open your eyes. If you know your partner cheated on you leave them. If they did it once who's to say they won't do it again? Don't let anyone take advantage of your love because anyone that does is not good enough to be with you in the first place. Cheating is an unforgivable act...I don't think anyone should get a second chance..why let someone hurt your feelings twice when you can find someone who would never even think about hurting you? Who disagrees? Who thinks second chances are good for relationships? I'm open to any comments so please do just that and comment...
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well wat i think is tht if a person is cheatin and u find out and they hurt u really bad then why give them a second chance but if u kno u love this peron truly then u should
ReplyDeletedis is a very realistic and accurate blog dere hav been ppl in my life who tink dey can fogive dere cheatin partners in hopes dat dey changed onli 2 get dere hearts broken all ova ag wen dat happens dey realize dat dey made a huge mistake in givin dere partners da benefit of the doubt dis happens way 2 often n its eda bcuz ppl r naive o jus 2 stubborn 2 accept wen dere partners r cheatin on dem
ReplyDeleteWell, this is why I don't date lol, because I hate commitments, and I wouldn't want to put those type of restrictions on someone else. Since when do teenagers have real relationships anyway lol. I've seen this happen to many friends, and all I could say was, "I told you so". Not everyone is looking to be in a committed relationship, and if you are, then you should make that clear, right off the bat. Because some people are just looking to have fun, not to have a serious relationship. However, I believe that 2nd chances are good for relationships, depending on the circumstances, but I do not condone 3rd and 4th chances. 2 is the max. Like the quote says, "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me."
ReplyDeleteYes I agree with u….at times we love the person so much itz jus hard 2 let them go..i can sai that I hve been in dis situation….i found it n my heart 2 4give him… but den he did it again,,,I guess he felt like he can play wit my heart n I will always 4 give him…but 2 his surprise I broke it off with him..some people let love get in da wai but itz not love wen u stick around da person dat dnt make u happi…now wen a guy cheat I hve 2 break up wit dem no more chances….if im not happi why stay
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